Vulnerability, Kindness & Human Connection
It’s time for change. Or more accurately: time means change. So many things have shifted in these past months, as they always do. As they must do. There is no constant and no safety line, I’ve come to realize that, I’ve come to fear that and I’ve come to appreciate it. Old doors close so that new ones can open. New opportunities arise, we wave goodbye to people we loved and welcome new wind into our minds. This is life’s impermanence that doesn’t need to be grieved but instead appreciated for its natural existence.
I spent this year’s Christmas together with my family in Dublin, Ireland. Time in Ireland always means many seagulls, a lot of sea, fresh air, green hills, lit fireplaces and time to reflect. Our time together was cosy, offered space for reconnection and allowed each of us to belong. Of course we also ate delicious food including vanilla & almond cookies with raspberry jam, orange & chocolate brownies, apple cinammon loafs, pumpkin curry, shakshuka, roasted sweet potato, homemade labneh with za’atar and lots of hummus! (recipes will follow)
2018 is reaching its end and transition is taking place. These are the thoughts that are circulating within me and that I would like to share with you: through my journey with judilicious and nutritious, I am working on myself. With this project, I am making myself vulnerable by putting my work out there, for family, friends and strangers to see. I am vulnerable through the ideas I share, the risks I take to keep this project alive, the hope that I attach to it. Vulnerability is a theme in all of our lives and I have started to grasp how crucial being vulnerable is in order to connect, to be compassionate and to become aware of our experiences in this life.
With this blog, I’ve managed to connect with different people who share similar interests by reaching out and spending time. This process taps into our collective human fears: fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of not being enough. But by allowing that fear to exist and acting despite of it, it can be overcome, one step at a time. At the same time, fear is something so natural and resourceful that we should see it for what it is: a sign to show us where we feel stuck on our path, where we need to lean in more. Reaching out to others and asking them to participate in my project allows real, human connection, one that is neither pretentious, nor beautified.
“Our innate need for connection makes the consequences of disconnection that much more real and dangerous. Sometimes we only think we’re connected. Technology, for instance, has become a kind of imposter for connection, making us believe we’re connected when we’re really not – at least not in the ways we need to be. In our technology-crazed world, we’ve confused being communicative with feeling connected. Just because we’re plugged in, doesn’t mean that we feel seen and heard.” – Brené Brown*
I began writing this blog only six months ago and since then, my idea has fallen onto fruitful soil. The feedback I receive is utterly positive, I read messages from people who tried out my recipes and see photos of their take on my dishes. My project finds interest which fills my heart with joy! This and my own firm belief that what I do matters, is what keeps me going. It makes all the time and effort that I invest worthwhile. This is a project through which I express who I am and it comes from a place of passion and love for food and people. I put myself out there and risk being critized. But also, it creates space for connection which is what I cherish. And for that, I need others. I need their time, their minds, their kindness, their help, their hearts.
“As we think about the definition of connection and how easy it is to mistake technology for connecting, we also need to consider letting go of the myth of self-sufficiency. One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on going it alone. Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into those who offer help and those who need help. The truth is that we are both.” – Brené Brown*
If you appreciate reading this blog, scrolling through my recipes and getting to know the “People Who Cook” cooks, please share it with your friends and family. Spreading this content helps me to keep this going! I hope that the thoughts I share with you through this post reach you in your own journey and speak to your heart. We’re all in this together and I appreciate this common ground. Let’s relate to one another, be kind and practice compassion every single day, with ourselves and with others.
Love and light, you beautiful people, see you in the coming year.
*the book out of which I am quoting is called The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown. I can very much recommend reading it and I think that this book’s contents are relevant to each and every one of us who want to live a mindful, tolerant and meaningful life. ♥